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Children and their Gifts

The best thing you can do to your children is to empower them. Develop them to reach their full potential.

In Matthew 9: 37, 38. Jesus sent the disciples to go exercise their gifts.

Let your children do the same, exercise their gifts. In the end, they will bless you for it.

Let us look at our children as the adults they will become.

Sunday Evening Reflection

 

What are you reflecting on this evening?

Here are the words that are tagging at my heart this evening.

“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”

They have become a pillar in my day-to-day life as we are faced with a lot of hard times. I am careful to feed on what I want to reflect onto others. It is more important to me as a homeschool mom because I do not have a “teacher” to blame when my kids don’t learn as “expected”

When I feed my soul, I can give of myself more and better.

I wish you all a happy and fruitful week ahead.

 

I Fail Often!!

I am not perfect

I don’t know everything

I make mistakes

I always have laundry to do

I don’t always have a clean house

 

I do not always finish the teaching in 6 hours

I do not always have papers graded, sometimes for a week

I do not always have a schedule set for the week

I do not always know if I brought the books in from the car

 

Instead of dwelling on the above

 

I know how to empower my children

I know how to develop their potential

I know how to instill a positive mental attitude

I know to lead the from the heart

I know how to reach their hearts

 

How??

 

I know my source of Power.

I have the best model/example

Jesus empowered His disciples

He sent them to exercise their gifts.

 (Matthew 9:37-38)

 

As for my children

 

They will know whose they are

They will become the best version of themselves

They will know how to use their God-given gifts

They will know how to set goals

They will know to treat others without taking advantage of anyone

They will know how to bless others

They will know how to set a vision and get it

 

(Among other things)

 

In the end,

 

They will bless me.

Comparison Monster!!

5 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN COMPARISON SETS IN: –
 
☝️ You are the best home-educator and mom for your children.
☝️ God put the dream in you to homeschool, and He has already equipped you.
✋The fingers in your hands have different lengths, so are homeschool families. We are all different.
☝️ Someone else could be comparing themselves to you. You are their greener pasture!
☝️ Your students are not your own. They came through you.
👀 Look to their MAKER for help! Surrender!!
Enjoy the journey. It goes so fast.
Is this something you have been struggling with a lot?

Emotions and Energy.

How do you handle emotions? Do you let them control you or do you control them?

What I learned this week is that I can improve my quality of life by learning how to control my emotions. I also learned that I operate best when I am experiencing positive energy and I am able to lead effectively. There is less friction in my relationships too. 

I took the following steps to bounce back to the positive energy:

      • Deep abdominal breaths, exhaling slowly
      • told someone that I appreciated them
      • changed the dialog in my head. 

To change the dialog in my head, I asked myself three questions:

      • Is this situation true?
      • will it matter in six months?
      • how can I grow from the situation?

The quality of energy improved, and I was able to control my emotions positively. I was more productive, there was less friction, and I accomplished more.

The Measure of Worth!

How do you measure your worth?

Regardless of your position-Mom, Sister, Wife, or Employee….

Do you measure your worth by -:

  • How much money do you make?
  • How do others respond to you?
  • How well dressed you are?
  • How big your house is?

I could go on and on.

The true measure of one’s worth is found

  • in the value, we add to other people’s lives
  • in how they experience us
  • lastly in the love that we give.

When it’s all said and done, it boils down to love and service.

  • How we love others.
  • We show them by serving them.

When we serve, we are adding value.

By allowing others to have a warm and loving experience when they encounter us.

When we serve others, we should do so, not because we love them, but because we love to.

Serve because you love to.

As Always, Cleave to what is good!!

💕💕💕

Blame or Responsibility

I was walking home one day from school and saw 2 teenagers arguing. Apparently, they had been assigned a history project and they had both received an F.

Because it was a group project, I did not see how they had failed, having followed all the instructions. I decided to dig deeper. What I found out was that only one of them had done the project as a favor to the friend. The teacher found out.

Blame and responsibility are two words that get confused and misused all the time.


Merriam Webster’s definition of Blame:
  • to express one’s unfavorable opinion of the worth or quality of
  • responsibility for wrongdoing or failure
  • the state of being held as the cause of something that needs to be set right

Who was to blame for the failed grade?


Merriam Webster’s definition of responsibility:
  1. the quality or state of being responsible: such as:
    • a: moral, legal, or mental accountability
    • b: Reliability, Trustworthiness
  2. something for which one is responsible: Burden

Who is responsible for the failed grade?

The one that did not do the work or the one that did the work? Why?

Who Do You Think You are?

Ouch! I cringe as I write the title. Whenever that question is asked, it usually doesn’t come from a place of love. It is normally in the middle of a heated conversation. An argument. And yet it is a question we should be asking ourselves every morning when we get up. Or throughout the day.
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee. Proverbs  23:7
Thoughts are powerful. God has given us this phenomenon to us- the ability to think. To create the words and experiences we want, we need to change our thinking.

Love. Change. Live!

I was reflecting on this question. When your friend messes up, what do you say to them? “It’s going to be ok”

You look for ways to make her feel better.

When you mess up, what do you say to yourself?

I guess if you are like me, you are always hard on yourself.

We did not learn self-compassion.

Let us turn the tide.

Teach your child self-compassion. Better still, learn it together. Practice it and ask to hold each other accountable.  It will reflect in all areas of their lives. There is not a better time to learn. You are the perfect person to learn from.

You see, when you educate a child, you are not just transferring information, you are changing a life.

Love. Change. Live!

My Growth as a Mom!

It is May 10th, 2020. It is the day that is set aside to celebrate our mothers. To recognize all that they do for us. The valleys and mountains they walk with us. A special thank you goes to my children. Without them, I would not have this honorable title. They call me mom because I birthed them. I do not take it for granted because the lessons they have taught me are so precious, I am a better person because of my kids. How I have grown!!

In Prayer

I have relied on God to give me the strength to bring up His children in the way they should go. I pray for them daily and I also pray for their future husbands. I pray for their education and for their careers. They have taught me to pray and to be strong.

In Finding Joy

There is nothing like a child’s joy. A smile from the time they wake up to the time they come to give you a goodnight hug. We call it a “squeezie” because it has to be as tight as possible. That smile and a heart full of joy make it easy to forget the hard times. They have taught me to smile and be joyful.

Discipline

You can’t give what you do not have. In my quest to teach them, I have had to make sure that my tank is full first before they get up. I run to the Well every morning for my fill. I have had to learn to discipline myself in so many ways. What I watch and what I read. They have taught me to stick with it and be disciplined.

In defining Happiness

I have learned to create many positive experiences for us as a family. These are things that we will remember with fondness in years to come. That is what I call happiness. Even when things are tough, I look for a way out. It can be a hug or breakfast for dinner.  They have taught me what it means to be happy.

This week, I had asked all my siblings to tell me of facts they remember about our dear mom. It was very refreshing to read all they told me. One thing that stood out most was that she gave her all and her best in everything she did. She put others first.

I saw that this is one of the most distinctive traits or call it a lesson, that I inherited from her. I have a servant’s heart.

Thank you mom.