Stifling Them Slowly!

 

From the voice of a teenager:

 

The only time dad talks to me is:

  • when he wants me to do something for him.
  • when he is reminding me of my cousin’s success.
  • When he is reminding me of how good I have it.
  • When he tells me of the hardships he went through at my age.
  • When I have done well in school. Two words.

 

✅ I long to know my dad.

✅ I know he went through hardships.

✅ I want to know him for who he is now.

✅ I love my dad

✅ I know he loves me

✅ I want him to talk to me

♥️ To tell me it is ok to fail

♥️ To tell me he loves me

♥️ To tell me I am enough

♥️ To tell me I matter

♥️ Most of all, I want him to listen to me.”

 

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Children and their Gifts

The best thing you can do to your children is to empower them. Develop them to reach their full potential.

In Matthew 9: 37, 38. Jesus sent the disciples to go exercise their gifts.

Let your children do the same, exercise their gifts. In the end, they will bless you for it.

Let us look at our children as the adults they will become.

Sunday Evening Reflection

 

What are you reflecting on this evening?

Here are the words that are tagging at my heart this evening.

“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”

They have become a pillar in my day-to-day life as we are faced with a lot of hard times. I am careful to feed on what I want to reflect onto others. It is more important to me as a homeschool mom because I do not have a “teacher” to blame when my kids don’t learn as “expected”

When I feed my soul, I can give of myself more and better.

I wish you all a happy and fruitful week ahead.

 

I Fail Often!!

I am not perfect

I don’t know everything

I make mistakes

I always have laundry to do

I don’t always have a clean house

 

I do not always finish the teaching in 6 hours

I do not always have papers graded, sometimes for a week

I do not always have a schedule set for the week

I do not always know if I brought the books in from the car

 

Instead of dwelling on the above

 

I know how to empower my children

I know how to develop their potential

I know how to instill a positive mental attitude

I know to lead the from the heart

I know how to reach their hearts

 

How??

 

I know my source of Power.

I have the best model/example

Jesus empowered His disciples

He sent them to exercise their gifts.

 (Matthew 9:37-38)

 

As for my children

 

They will know whose they are

They will become the best version of themselves

They will know how to use their God-given gifts

They will know how to set goals

They will know to treat others without taking advantage of anyone

They will know how to bless others

They will know how to set a vision and get it

 

(Among other things)

 

In the end,

 

They will bless me.

Comparison Monster!!

5 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN COMPARISON SETS IN: –
 
☝️ You are the best home-educator and mom for your children.
☝️ God put the dream in you to homeschool, and He has already equipped you.
✋The fingers in your hands have different lengths, so are homeschool families. We are all different.
☝️ Someone else could be comparing themselves to you. You are their greener pasture!
☝️ Your students are not your own. They came through you.
👀 Look to their MAKER for help! Surrender!!
Enjoy the journey. It goes so fast.
Is this something you have been struggling with a lot?

Emotions and Energy.

How do you handle emotions? Do you let them control you or do you control them?

What I learned this week is that I can improve my quality of life by learning how to control my emotions. I also learned that I operate best when I am experiencing positive energy and I am able to lead effectively. There is less friction in my relationships too. 

I took the following steps to bounce back to the positive energy:

      • Deep abdominal breaths, exhaling slowly
      • told someone that I appreciated them
      • changed the dialog in my head. 

To change the dialog in my head, I asked myself three questions:

      • Is this situation true?
      • will it matter in six months?
      • how can I grow from the situation?

The quality of energy improved, and I was able to control my emotions positively. I was more productive, there was less friction, and I accomplished more.

The Measure of Worth!

How do you measure your worth?

Regardless of your position-Mom, Sister, Wife, or Employee….

Do you measure your worth by -:

  • How much money do you make?
  • How do others respond to you?
  • How well dressed you are?
  • How big your house is?

I could go on and on.

The true measure of one’s worth is found

  • in the value, we add to other people’s lives
  • in how they experience us
  • lastly in the love that we give.

When it’s all said and done, it boils down to love and service.

  • How we love others.
  • We show them by serving them.

When we serve, we are adding value.

By allowing others to have a warm and loving experience when they encounter us.

When we serve others, we should do so, not because we love them, but because we love to.

Serve because you love to.

As Always, Cleave to what is good!!

💕💕💕

Blame or Responsibility

I was walking home one day from school and saw 2 teenagers arguing. Apparently, they had been assigned a history project and they had both received an F.

Because it was a group project, I did not see how they had failed, having followed all the instructions. I decided to dig deeper. What I found out was that only one of them had done the project as a favor to the friend. The teacher found out.

Blame and responsibility are two words that get confused and misused all the time.


Merriam Webster’s definition of Blame:
  • to express one’s unfavorable opinion of the worth or quality of
  • responsibility for wrongdoing or failure
  • the state of being held as the cause of something that needs to be set right

Who was to blame for the failed grade?


Merriam Webster’s definition of responsibility:
  1. the quality or state of being responsible: such as:
    • a: moral, legal, or mental accountability
    • b: Reliability, Trustworthiness
  2. something for which one is responsible: Burden

Who is responsible for the failed grade?

The one that did not do the work or the one that did the work? Why?

Who Do You Think You are?

Ouch! I cringe as I write the title. Whenever that question is asked, it usually doesn’t come from a place of love. It is normally in the middle of a heated conversation. An argument. And yet it is a question we should be asking ourselves every morning when we get up. Or throughout the day.
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee. Proverbs  23:7
Thoughts are powerful. God has given us this phenomenon to us- the ability to think. To create the words and experiences we want, we need to change our thinking.

Love. Change. Live!

I was reflecting on this question. When your friend messes up, what do you say to them? “It’s going to be ok”

You look for ways to make her feel better.

When you mess up, what do you say to yourself?

I guess if you are like me, you are always hard on yourself.

We did not learn self-compassion.

Let us turn the tide.

Teach your child self-compassion. Better still, learn it together. Practice it and ask to hold each other accountable.  It will reflect in all areas of their lives. There is not a better time to learn. You are the perfect person to learn from.

You see, when you educate a child, you are not just transferring information, you are changing a life.

Love. Change. Live!